Divorce Strategies

If you are looking to improve your chances of getting a divorce, I’ve found some truly effective strategies you can utilize. The statistical likelihood is astounding. Dr. John Gottman has been researching marriages for over 25 years. He has been able to predict with over 80% accuracy which couples are going to make it, and which couples are going to get a divorce. In his book, “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work,” he uncovers that it’s not conflict that destroys the marriage but how that conflict is handled. Gottman refers to these problems as the “Four Horseman of the Apocalypse.” So if you’re looking to say “hello” to the single life and “goodbye” to the married life, here are 4 techniques you can use to ensure your divorce papers are in the mail.

1. Criticism – Attacking the person’s character
2. Contempt – Putting down the other person
3. Defensiveness – Denying responsibility
4. Stonewalling – The “silent” treatment

This might be a wake up call for you. Do whatever you can to get rid of this cancer in your marriage. Valentine’s Day might be the perfect time to apologize and make a commitment not to resort to these communication pitfalls. If you’re looking for a quick summary of the book and some tips for improving your marriage, click here to read a secular summary of the book.

Our church started our annual marriage series last week. Timmy talks about it here. It is one of our highest attended message series every year. People in your community are looking for answers on how to make their marriage work. Incorporating a marriage series as you plan out this year will help your church be a light in your community.